The nicest surprise has been that I haven’t missed any of the things I’ve stopped doing. I did expect some resistance and struggle and there has been none.
I will say however that right up till midnight of Sept. 30th, I wasn’t sure I would actually be able to even start never mind carry through with what I had set myself. I watched tv and ate all the delicious and yet bad for me stuff right till the stroke of midnight. And as soon as that happened, I just turned the tv off, picked up my phone and deleted about 40 Apps on it that I would not be needing. I knew then that I’d be fine. The decision had been made.
The other thing I have started noticing is that I don’t know what to do without the tech. The phone had so many Apps that entertained me for minutes and hours at a time when I had some free time. All that freed up time is making me antsy, which makes me reach out for the phone to while away a few free moments, only to discover that, nope, nothing there to help me with that. I put down the phone to gaze at my navel and gather wool as they say. It’s so uncomfortable and so boring and so wonderful all at the same time. This, afterall, is what I went looking for – that place where the old habits are no longer available so there is no option but to find something new, different and better for me.
Now, I believe, the real work can begin. As the overwhelmed plate begins to empty and the head begins to see straight, I will begin seeing what’s what and then, hopefully, begin making different and informed decisions about what I want back on and what will permanently stay off and what new stuff will come in.
Forgetting yourself and your whole way of being isn’t as easy as it sounds – not when you don’t really have amnesia anyway. So how am I going to make sure that I forget the things I am choosing to forget and remember to, be, do and think differently?
I create an Excel spreadsheet of course!
I am very partial to a good Excel spreadsheet I must confess. I’ve spent many a good day engrossed in the creation of new ones. This is one area where my creativity really comes out and shines. But I digress…
Along with the spreadsheet to track the things I want to forget and the things I want to remember, I have put together some rules for the three main areas I will focus my year on.
My spending habits, my eating habits and my digital entertainment habits specifically will be under the watchful eye of the spreadsheet and the rules will help decision making be easier when it comes to what I can and can’t do. And there are exceptions of course, as with any good rule. There will be instances where I will need to spend money and eat out and watch tv. This is an exercise in changing the way I live, it’s not a prison sentence after all. The chart below shows the details.
My new eating habits will especially be useful as this is one area of my life that I could definitely be more organized in. In the past, I have tended to not plan ahead where food has been concerned so eating out and, on the go, which usually meant fast food, was the option I made available to myself. Now however, Ms. Organizer here is going to have to plan ahead or forego a meal here and there. Not the biggest problem since no one in this part of the world will starve if we missed a meal but I do like to eat so I’ll take option A please – plan ahead.
Being a problem solver, I look at things from the perspective of what could go wrong with any solution I put into place for a client. On a renovation or relocation project, will the trades show up on the days they are supposed to? What if the trades show up but the product to be installed, new carpet for example, doesn’t arrive? The what ifs and my answers to them are the backbone of my work. So in my own case, what would be the potential problems that could come up during the course of the next year to derail me?
I know myself well enough, and, if with no one else, I am always completely honest with myself so when I went looking for them, I found a few loopholes that on a bad day I could potentially grasp onto like a drowning woman. Don’t judge me please, it’s not easy to die unto your old self and be reborn. Even as a Professional Organizer, who generally has her sh*t together, I’m still human. Most people don’t realise the enormous pressure that people like me face, with the internal need and external expectations to always be perfect. And I’ll be the first one to admit, I am not. Far from it in fact.
So, the spreadsheet will help me remember to forget these loopholes. The document will track 31 things which can be categorized into two main areas, the things I must do, to begin, being and feeling different and the things I must not do for the same reason.
The actual hibits list isn’t very clear in the above image so here is the full list for those inquiring minds that want to know:
I could not have imagined the number of hours in my day that have opened up in such a short space of time as a result of following this daily practise. It has only been two weeks and life is already changing. For the better.
This list of 31 items looks like a lot but it really isn’t if one takes a closer look at what I’m actually tracking. I have my daily morning and evening routines and the rest is more about avoiding a few key things which doesn’t take any time. All in all, this new routine takes me approximately two and half to three hours per day with the major portion of it being in the morning. The time I invest in this is far less than the time I save to do other, more meaningful things, towards a life worth getting out of bed for – full of fun, freedom, adventure and learning.
One major rule for this year is that I’m going to treat this experiment like a game because if it feels like work, I won’t want to do it. And games are so much more fun don’t you think?